Proposal Checklist 101

You want your proposal to be spur of the moment. It should seem like it came from out of the blue, but it should also have that feeling you’ve been planning it for a long time. So nothing gets missed, let’s go through our Proposal Checklist!

Surprised (but not surprised)

The moment you ask should come like a bolt out of the sky. It could be small and private, or big and bold…either way it should make an impact! BUT, (there’s always a “but”) you should make sure your’re both on the same page. It’s one thing to talk about getting married, but be sure you want to BE married. That means discussing finances, families, and careers. Being in love is a big part of this, and so are all the other things that come up in a lifetime. Getting it right now will save you many headaches later.

Ask Her Parents

Old fashioned? Maybe. But still a good idea. Your families are about to be permanently blended. Let’s start this off on the right foot and make sure everybody is on the same page.

Learn Her Rings

Going ring shopping beforehand doesn’t spoil the surprise. In fact, it gives you a clear picture of what she likes. Have a side conversation with one of her friends and keep an eye on her Pinterest page. If you’ve been thinking about it, she’s been thinking about it, too.

Big Event or Private Surprise?

There’s no right or wrong answer here, but make sure you’re in sync. If she doesn’t like being the center of attention, don’t do anything that she might find embarrassing. If she’s expecting big fanfare, don’t drop the ball and phone it in. You know her best, so this is the time to do it right! If this will require big props and a marching band, start planning ahead. No matter the size, think about what you’ll both be wearing. Selfies will get snapped and pics will get shared. Consider having a friend of hers nearby to be ready to memorialize the moment. What else might be needed? Flowers? A bottle of wine? Get these things sorted out beforehand, because you want your whole focus to be on that big ask!

How Will You Ask?

There’s nothing wrong with a simple “will you marry me.” But to really make the moment something special, gather your thoughts. Tell her how much she really means to you. Why you want to be with her forever. Good things and big dreams of things to come. This is a day you will both remember, and even tell your kids about (you did talk about kids, remember? Go back to the first tip for a refresher).

The Announcement

Now is the time to tell the world (or at least your family and friends). Traditional engagement announcements and “save the date” cards can go out. Consider having a small gathering with all your favorite people. They want to celebrate this just as much as you do!

Remember the Big Picture

There’s about to be a lot of excitement and high emotions. Don’t forget to slow down and really soak in all that’s happening. You’ve both committed to not only get married…but to BE married. Congratulations. And, as always, we’re here to help in any way we can.

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